A key aspect to achieving fulfillment is to have people around you to share journey with. Throughout life you’ll establish many networks and relationships; with work colleagues, friends & family but it’s my belief that the most important relationship you’ll ever have is that of an intimate relationship with a wife, husband or partner.
Imagine achieving your biggest goals and your wildest dreams and then not having anyone to share that feeling with. It’d be a very lonely place. It’s the personal connections and emotions that come from intimate relationships that can pick you up when you’re down, encourage you to go that little bit further and give you something to live for when all else may seem lost. It’s these same connections that allow you to be true to yourself and have the courage to create the life you want.
I believe you’re in one of two categories in life; you’re either already in relationship or your looking to be in one. There would only be a small population of the world that actually does not want to be in a relationship and share their life with someone. And I say to that - their time will come where an emotional connection hits them or they meet “THE ONE.”
Successful relationships require nurturing and effort from both parties. Some of you may have heard before that “anything that doesn’t grow dies”, and “anything that fails to contribute is eliminated”. These concepts are key in creating those extraordinary relationships; both participants need to be continually growing and contributing to themselves and each other.
So where does this all leave you?
If you’re in a relationship then you must be able to communicate effectively. If each partner is looking out for and prioritizing the other’s needs, both people in that relationship will feel respected, valued and loved.
1. Start with some positive reconnecting; share some of the things you love about each other by writing them down and discussing them.
2. Find out what your partner wants from you to be happy and fulfilled.
3. Find out what you want from your partner to happy and fulfilled.
4. Now work out how you can give each other what you need.
It’s really that easy. Do this together as a project and you’ll find if you’re both working together to meet the other’s needs then you’re on your way to achieving real fulfillment in life. Remember clear communication and compromise will be very important for this to be successful. And make this a habit for life; once will not be enough. My wife and I have small chats throughout the year and do one large annual ‘relationship review’. It can be whatever works for you. You may find that in times of change (such as a new baby or new career) as well as times of stress (such as illness or unemployment) that the frequency you need to check-in with each other increases.
For those that are not in a marriage or intimate partnership, then it’s the people you surround yourself with that will be fundamental in leading a fulfilled life. Family, friends and work colleagues all play a huge part in this. Remember there are people in this world that can very easily drag you down and then there are others that will strive to lift you up. Find out what it really is that you want from life and where you want to be, surround yourself with those like-minded people and you’ll quickly find yourself taking steps towards really living out your goals and dreams.
Quote of the day
"Whether you think you can or you think you can't either way you are right" ~ Henry Ford
I really sum this quote up by saying, “What you focus on you get”.
If you focus on negative thoughts, bad decisions and things you can’t change, then that’s all that will surround you. The one thing you can control is the way you choose to view things and how you deal with them. If you focus on the things that give you the most joy out of life, then you can’t go wrong.
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